I had a couple of requests for something I shared in my sermon on Sunday and I thought there might be more people
To summarize the careful study of Roberta Bondi, Christian love (agape) is not so much an emotion or a feeling, as it is a intentionally cultivated disposition, a deep attitude of the heart, a whole way of being, feeling, seeing, and understanding that looks out for the well-being of the other, even when doing so goes against our own self-interest. [1]
[1] I gleaned this from two of her books: To Love as God Loves and To Pray and to Love.