Please note that Jenny and I strive to follow ¶341.5 of The Book of Discipline and “maintain all confidences inviolate, including confessional confidences, except in the cases of suspected child abuse or neglect or in cases where mandatory reporting is required by civil law.” However, please note that as a clergy couple we do not keep pastoral confidences from one another. Furthermore, it is always a good idea to alert us to the fact that something that you’re telling us is being told in confidence. (We both endeavor to exercise the utmost discretion, and so far we haven’t slipped, but the line between an upcoming surgery that you want everyone in the church to be praying about and an upcoming surgery that you want kept private can become blurry.)