“The rule for us all is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him [or her].”
— C. S. Lewis
This is a very Wesleyan sentiment. But John Wesley would hasten to add that we can find ourselves loving him or her only because of the work of the Holy Spirit within us.
Hat tip: Sojourners