I came across the following quote in the book Half Truths by Adam Hamilton. It was shared with him by a pastor named Ray Firestone. I don’t know who shared it with Ray Firestone, but it rings true and has its own authority. My hope is that it will help you when you experience suffering.
Suffering is not God’s desire for us, but it occurs in the process of life. Suffering is not given to teach us something, but through it, we may learn. Suffering is not given to punish us, but sometimes it is the consequence of our sin or poor judgment. Suffering does not occur because our faith is weak, but through it, our faith may be strengthened. God does not depend on human suffering to achieve his purposes, but sometimes through suffering his purposes are achieved. Suffering can either destroy us, or it can add meaning to our life. 
I pray that the suffering that occurs in your life will not destroy you, but will instead add meaning and draw you closer to God.
 Adam Hamilton, Half Truths: God Helps Those Who Help Themselves and Other Things the Bible Doesn’t Say (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2016), 44.